Jane Bates: Public humiliation left me walking on eggshells - but now it's time to move on and offer help

A past encounter in which Jane Bates was accused of being a 'do-gooder' left her thinking twice when providing aid

A past encounter in which Jane Bates was accused of being a 'do-gooder' left her thinking twice when providing aid

The woman beside me in church evidently had limited physical mobility. When it was time for everyone to go to the front at the holy communion service, I didn’t know what to do.

Should I offer to help her up the steps? Would she be offended If I did, or offended if I didn’t? What a dilemma.

You may think my hesitation a bit strange, but it stemmed from an incident years ago when I was a newly qualified nurse. In a crowded lecture theatre, the woman next to me had a full-blown grand mal seizure. I made sure she was safe and, as there was nothing to indicate she was epileptic and she appeared to be alone, I asked someone


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