Posted 25 January 2019
Posted 25 January 2019
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Older LGBT people find a welcome at the rainbow café
How nurses can support people facing memory loss, isolation and the fear of discrimination?
How can nurses support those with memory loss whose life experience differs so much from others their age?
For older lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender (LGBT) people who have memory issues, being asked about their past can sometimes cause anxiety, triggering painful recollections. Nurses working with this group of patients can benefit from understanding the issue and knowing how best to handle this situation.
There are a lot of services for people with dementia now, but many assume everyone is heterosexual, says Alice Wallace, director of Opening Doors London, the UKs largest charity providing information and support services specifically for older LGBT people.
Some healthcare professionals are uncomfortable asking an older person about their sexuality
Alice Wallace, director of Opening Doors London
Reminiscence work can be very much centred on, Lets get the wedding photographs out and talk about
...How can nurses support those with memory loss whose life experience differs so much from others their age?
For older lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender (LGBT) people who have memory issues, being asked about their past can sometimes cause anxiety, triggering painful recollections. Nurses working with this group of patients can benefit from understanding the issue and knowing how best to handle this situation.
‘There are a lot of services for people with dementia now, but many assume everyone is heterosexual,’ says Alice Wallace, director of Opening Doors London, the UK’s largest charity providing information and support services specifically for older LGBT people.
‘Some healthcare professionals are uncomfortable asking an older person about their sexuality’
Alice Wallace, director of Opening Doors London
‘Reminiscence work can be very much centred on, “Let’s get the wedding photographs out and talk about how you met your husband or wife”,’ explains Ms Wallace. ‘But this is a population that didn’t engage much with getting married or having children, because they weren’t allowed.’
When relationships broke the law
What nurses can say and do to promote inclusivity
Use inclusive language, advises Ms Wallace. ‘We often assume that everyone is heterosexual unless we know differently,’ she says. ‘It may take a little practice, but everyone can adapt their vocabulary to be more inclusive.’ This includes asking for relationship rather than marital status. Including ‘preferred pronoun’ on a form also shows understanding that someone may not identify as they appear, she says.
As most older LGBT people will have had some negative experiences of coming out, it’s important to value their disclosure to you, says Ms Wallace. ‘Find an appropriate form of words to demonstrate you’re pleased they’ve told you, are comfortable with the information and able to take it into account in their healthcare,’ she says.
Have the confidence to challenge discriminatory attitudes and behaviour, urges Ms Wallace. ‘Many nurses admit to having heard colleagues make negative remarks,’ she says. Older LGBT people can be particularly anxious about being treated in a safe and supportive space because of past experiences of unwanted banter, verbal abuse and physical violence.
As she points out, some gay men have long-term relationships that began when homosexuality was illegal. ‘Even for people in their fifties, they’re likely to have started their first relationship before they were 21 – and that was against the law,’ says Ms Wallace. ‘Reminding them about those days isn’t just upsetting because they haven’t got any pictures, it’s the anxiety that they couldn’t do those things.’
In October 2017 the charity launched the UK’s first rainbow memory café, which provides an opportunity for LGBT people, affected either directly or indirectly by memory loss, to meet every month. ‘The feedback we’ve had from those attending has been amazing, with some calling it a lifeline,’ says Ms Wallace. ‘Someone told us it was like coming home.’
Drawing on their experiences, Opening Doors London is now developing materials it hopes to share with other organisations. ‘We can say, "If you’re working with older LGBT people, here is something appropriate for you to use",’ says Ms Wallace.
Happy, healthy and independent
Attracting at least a dozen people each month, the café is just one of around 45 regular social activities and events run by Opening Doors London for more than 1,900 members aged 50-plus. Others include piloting a virtual support group for gay and bisexual men with prostate cancer, alongside a national conference on health and social care needs of LGBT people. ‘Our aim is to ensure that people can live happy, healthy, independent lives, free from loneliness, isolation, prejudice and discrimination. We’re nothing if not ambitious,’ says Ms Wallace.
While there has been significant progress, prejudice is still a concern for their members, she says. ‘This is a population that lived through the worst years of discrimination,’ says Ms Wallace. ‘Some have told me that even now, if they have an early morning knock on the door, they freeze, wondering if it’s the police.’
Some decide it’s easier to hide sexuality
Experiences of joining social events run by other organisations that target this age group can be negative, with some deciding it’s easier to hide their sexuality than have to confront constant questions or face potential abuse.
‘I don’t think those who haven’t experienced discrimination in this way can understand how draining and undermining it can be,’ says Ms Wallace. ‘You have to brace yourself for the same conversations and then wonder what the reaction and response will be. In contrast, people say to us, "I can come along and not have to explain myself." They know they are understood and accepted.’
Healthcare professionals can potentially play a huge role in improving both the lives and the health of the older LGBT community, she says. Evidence shows that health outcomes are generally worse for LGBT people than for the rest of the population.
Intrusive questions and curiosity
A government survey of more than 100,000 LGBT people published in July 2018 found that many had difficulties accessing healthcare services, with some experiencing inappropriate questioning and curiosity from healthcare staff, and many feeling their specific needs were not taken into account in their care.
The findings echo Ms Wallace’s experience. ‘LGBT people can have low levels of confidence in healthcare professionals, with many saying they wouldn’t come out to their healthcare provider,’ she says.
In addition, she believes many healthcare professionals doubt their ability to approach issues with sensitivity, and are afraid of causing offence. ‘There’s a lot of unease in talking about these issues generally,’ says Ms Wallace. ‘Some are uncomfortable asking an older person about their sexuality.’
Rights are being removed
To help, Opening Doors London provides a comprehensive nationwide training programme for health and social care professionals. Courses include improving awareness for care and support staff, personalising care for older LGBT clients, palliative and dementia care, and bereavement support.
‘Just because we have equal marriage doesn’t mean it’s all sorted. We must remain ever vigilant’
Alice Wallace
Training offers a space where it’s safe to ask questions, with volunteer ambassadors on hand to give real-time feedback. ‘We’ve had resistant groups of people who arrive reluctant to talk about gender or sexuality, but by the end of the course they’re buzzing, understanding how they can ask in ways that are comfortable for everyone,’ says Ms Wallace.
While there is much to welcome, watchfulness is vital if hard-won progress is not to be eroded, she believes. ‘We can’t sit on our laurels,’ says Ms Wallace. ‘There are countries that had progressive legislation, but those rights are now being taken away. Just because we have equal marriage doesn’t mean it’s all sorted. We must remain ever vigilant.’
Disregarded and misunderstood: the pressures faced by bisexual people
LGBT people who have suffered discrimination and bullying may be more likely to experience mental health problems than the wider population. The government’s survey of more than 100,000 LGBT people showed that almost a quarter of respondents had accessed mental health services in the previous 12 months.
‘LGBT people are in a minority in relation to the norms around sexual orientation and identity,’ says Marcel Vige, head of equality improvement at the mental health charity Mind. ‘This creates challenges, producing anxiety and stress – and that’s even before you begin to look at discrimination, prejudice and having to contend with some people’s attitudes.’
But there are also specific issues that apply to groups within the LGBT community, such as bisexual people. Several studies show they are much more at risk of developing depression and anxiety, obsessive compulsive disorder and bipolar disorder than those who are gay or lesbian.
For Mr Vige, a lack of recognition is among the reasons. ‘There is a sense that bisexuals are not seen,’ he says. ‘There can also be a view that they’re confused about their sexual orientation because they should be either straight or gay.’
Disregarded or misunderstood
Because bisexuality is often either disregarded or misunderstood, in 2016 Mind published Stand Bi Me, which provides information and guidance on some of the issues. Several studies show bisexuality carries a greater stigma than being lesbian or gay, says Mind’s report, with many associating being bisexual with promiscuity and feeling confused, and some even doubting its existence.
Statistics show that bisexual people are six times as likely as the average person to report feeling suicidal. Bisexual men, in particular, experience more psychological distress than gay men, and are far more likely to cite their sexuality as a reason to self-harm or feel suicidal.
Bisexual people are also far less likely to be ‘out’ to family, friends and colleagues. ‘Strides need to be made to tackle the prejudices and stigma that prevent many bisexual individuals from receiving the support and respect they deserve,’ says the report.
‘Nurses best-placed to help’
Nursing staff are pivotal in helping all members of the LGBT community to receive better care for their mental health, says Mr Vige, not least because they are likely to have the most contact with clients.
‘The fundamentals of nursing are very much in tune with this community,’ he says. ‘The nursing profession is best placed to help because they are about putting the patient first, enabling them to experience care based on their own needs, rather than sit within a pre-set mould of how they are supposed to respond.’
He advises listening closely to patients’ experiences. ‘Find out what their story is, so you can engage with them,’ says Mr Vige. ‘In mental health terms, being able to be yourself and feel valued and respected is critical to recovery.’
Lynne Pearce is a health journalist
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