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A happy new year for victims of domestic abuse?

Amanda Burston says none of us can 'save' someone in an abusive relationship, but we can be part of their recovery

Over the Christmas and New Year period, I was contacted by a friend who felt completely out of their depth when a young victim of domestic abuse arrived unexpectedly on her doorstep.

The victim was a family friend who had drifted away from her family and social group since her young marriage. She had given up her law course and appeared to settle into married life, giving it 100% and leaving little time for any other activities or friendships. Her Facebook had been deleted with an explanation of ‘leaving the past behind’.

On this particular day, she knocked on my friend’s door and entered silently. She was battered, broken and bruised, with torn clothes - a shadow of her former self. She was offered warmth, clothing, food, and the opportunity to sleep peacefully. They watched TV, talked superficially, drank coffee and even baked cake.

On day three,


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